What league do you want to play in? Once you decide, then you can invest your energy accordingly.
Do you want to play at a world class level or do you want to play in the minor leagues?
If you decide to play world class level then do not get bothered by minor league issues. If you decide to play minor league level then do not get bothered by world class issues.
Similarly in your home, do you want love and harmony and wonderful relationships? If so, then do not get worked up with petty, inconsequential issues.
Pick your battles based on where you want to play your game. You cannot fight all the battles – you will burn out!