When you are put in a difficult spot, you can either become paranoid or believe that you will have the best outcome.
Your self-talk starts the motion towards the outcome you desire. The paranoid approach leads to negativity which ends up creating a bad experience.
However, if you anticipate and plan for a good outcome, surprisingly you will have a good ride. You are in charge of your self-talk. No amount of passing the buck of the self-talk will help you!