The recent tsunami in Japan was devastating. We can all pray for the victims and offer as much support as we can give in whatever form. But the lesson for all of us is that these disasters can happen to any of us at any time. You cannot predict when. The Sufis say that you can plan for a hundred years, but you do not know what will happen in the next second. You can only prepare for responses to natural and human-made disasters and live life fully daily. Say “I love you,” “I miss you,” “please forgive me,” “I forgive you,” “thank you,” “sorry” often. These statements are free, yet can be priceless. This approach makes you win today.