What Counts!

If someone says something to you which is hurtful what happens to you? If you get hurt for a very short time, it is normal. However, if hurt continues, negative ego is creeping in.

When someone says something hurtful, the question you have to ask is: why is the statement hurting you?

⁃ Is it because someone is undermining your competence?
⁃ Is it because someone is making you look small and useless?
⁃ Is it because what someone is saying is actually the truth or has an element of truth and you don’t like listening to it?

Truth is truth and no one can change it. If you are competent, you are competent. By someone saying that you are not competent, does not change the truth. 

Similarly, when people make you feel small and useless it does not make you small and useless. If you are a useful person then that’s who you are and other people cannot change the truth with their opinion. Usually, people who insult other people see the world not how the world is but how they are! Therefore reacting to them is not necessary.

This does not mean you to be in denial. You want to be objective so you learn. If someone is saying the truth or has an element of truth and that is why it is hurting you (difficult to admit) then it is wise to pay heed. Sometimes these people end up being your best teachers!

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