7 Tips to exude Self-Confidence

Projecting self-confidence is a powerful tool in communicating capability and success. People naturally gravitate towards people who exude confidence and charisma. 

Our body language plays a crucial role in communicating self-confidence. It is estimated that over 80% of what we perceive about a person is garnered from body language and the tone of their voice rather than their actual words. 

But body language has another facet to it. Besides influencing others, body language has the power to influence the user as well. It is because our mind and body are intrinsically connected and the state of one affects the other. For example, in case your mood is low, your body language automatically changes to support your mood; your shoulders slump down, chin is lowered, you drag your feet and walk around listlessly. Similarly if you are feeling depressed, something as simple as giving a wide smile can change your mood. 

So lets examine 7 quick tips to project self-confidence and accentuate your personal brand of charisma in any situation. 

  1. Expand your personal space – Powerful people are confident of their space and are not scared to use it. While standing, always stand tall, with shoulders relaxed but pulled slightly back, head held high or face level, legs slightly apart and firmly planted on the ground. The whole manner will help you claim your territory and exude confidence. In case you are sitting, then slightly leaning back in your chair with your arms resting by your side with your legs uncrossed & resting on the ground and centering your weight in your lower body conveys solidity and confidence. 
  1. Take a pause – All good speakers, politicians, and actors understand the value of a good pause. A pause can be used in multiple situations and can last from just a split second to an extended pause, depending on the situation. People generally find silence uncomfortable in social situations. The pause allows you to create an empty space, which draws other people’s attention to you or the point you are making. Some of the instances where a pause can be made to create impact:
  • Pause after somebody else has spoken. Don’t rush in to start speaking immediately after the other has ended. This is not only impolite but also projects anxiousness and impatience.
  • Pause, both, before and after a punch line or during strategic conversations. The former increases anticipation, while the latter allows you to emphasise important points and underline your presence.  
  • When making an entry into any room or meeting, pause at the door, long enough to let others notice you and then enter; in short make an entrance not a hurried sneak in. But avoid doing this in case you are late at a meeting or will disturb somebody making a presentation. 
  1. Look others in the eye – Shifty eyes, avoiding eye contact, lowering your gaze,  all convey lack of confidence or insincerity. Powerful people always connect and communicate with their eyes. And once you make contact, don’t look away quickly. Linger long enough to make connect (how long: roughly the time taken to notice the color of their eyes) before gently and purposefully looking away. 
  1. Express with your hands – Expressing or gesturing with your hands while speaking allows you to not only emphasise your points, claim your space, but also to communicate forthrightness and trust. Confident people are always open and relaxed. They seldom use closed body postures like crossing their arms or remaining static or frozen during interactions. And since our body movement are linked to our mind, making use of open, confident gestures also fires up your thoughts and speech helping you create a better impact. 
  1. Steepling – This is hand gesture in which you join the tips of your fingers of both the hands, while your palms remain untouched; like a church steeple. This gesture is usually used when you are deliberating over a point, listening to somebody else or are about to express your opinion. The higher the steeple the higher your perceived level of confidence. But make sure you don’t lower your steeple too much or steeple under the table, as this can convey lack of confidence or insincerity. 
  1. Reduce mindless gestures – Hasty, thoughtless gestures always draw away from your credibility and weaken your stance. So avoid fidgeting with your clothes, shuffling your feet, twirling your hair, checking your phone repeatedly. Make sure all your movements are measured and purposeful, while making significant allowances for spontaneity and warmth.  
  1. Smile – Smile is an instant gateway to overcoming barriers both in you and others. When you smile you not only convey positive energy but also inspire confidence and affability in the other. Barring a few serious instances, smiling is a powerful tool in almost all situations. Right from creating a connect to softening a difficult conversation to confusing an adversary, smile has myriad benefits.


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