It’s not about You!

When you make life just about you, your processing of information, events and interactions all unfold around you. This makes your ego come in the way leading to disappointments, setbacks and frustrations.

However, if you make the interactions with others about them instead of you, your focus shifts to making the dialogue revolve around the other person’s needs and paradigms. This approach usually makes you a better communicator creating a deeper satisfying discussion.

Next time you interact with someone, remember: It’s not about you, it’s about the other!

What do you want?

I once asked this question to a room full of top-level CEOs who probably had everything a normal human being wishes for – money, fame, power, health, comfort. I had a pin drop for quite some time. When the discussion eventually brewed, the response was interesting, to say the least.

I heard things like: I want purpose, meaning, passion, love, happiness, peace of mind. This was surprising even to the CEO’s who were responding to the question posed.

What do you want out of life? This seems like a simple question. However, a lot of people either struggle to answer this question or waiver or keep changing their answers.

How will life provide you what you want if you are not crystal clear and
consistent in your desire?

Coincidence or Design?

A meeting gets cancelled at the last minute. This cancellation leads to a detour and to an incident that invites a new connection which becomes a game-changer connection for you. Someone bumps into you by chance needing your guidance at the right time and right place. You stumble into an old email and decide to respond to it leading to a totally unexpected assignment. Is there a design behind these coincidences?

The Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung called coincidences “synchronicity” or “acausal connecting principle.” He believed that there is an underlying order and structure to reality, a network that connects everything and everyone.

Your success will come from hard work, a focus on your core priorities and “luck” or coincidences.

These coincidences are the Universe’s way of responding to your dreams. The Universe is designed to respond to your deepest and consistent desires!

Non Judgmental!

We all feel that we are non-judgmental. The reality is it is very difficult to be non-judgemental.

We all have our biases and prejudices. The only way to be aware of our biases is to catch ourselves in action. When you find someone taking long to order their food and we go in our mind ‘there he or she goes again’ or if you are in a line up and someone takes a little longer to conclude a purchase and we say, ‘how long does it take to conclude a simple transaction for God’s sake?’ These are examples of making judgemental remarks.

Not everyone can be like you. Just because people are different from you does not make them objects for judgement.

Acceptance of people the way they are, not the way you want them to be; is the foundation of non-judgement. Not so easy!

Personal & Business Goal-Setting

The best way to start setting personal goals for 2022 is to write out your epitaph and obituary.

What would you like:

– to say to your Creator about your life that makes you feel that your life was a Wow

– your family, friends, business stakeholders and people who crossed your path to say about you

– In other words, Begin with the end of all ends then align all your other goals with these goals!

Next, you write your goals in six areas of your life (Work, Finance, Lifelong Learning, Family, Health, Spirituality) for:

– 5 years
– 1 year
– 90 days

All of the above need to be written in such a way that if you achieve them it would be a Wow for you!!

The best way to plan for Corporate goals is to look at 12 potential areas of potential positive disruption:

1. How leaders at all levels of business set goals that are aligned to the overall organizational goals and purpose. This requires clarity, burning desire and valuing obstacles and hurdles along the way. This is followed by a clear road map including regular feedback and accountability.

2. How you become more engaging, empowering and energizing. Positive disruption here requires going from being a transactional leader to a transformational leader.

3. How each leader taps into their enormous potential and inspires others to tap into theirs. This creates a realization that neither you nor your teams are tapping into your full potential. The disruption here entails a vigilant effort to fight off the status quo.

4. How you challenge yourself to create more value, connection and impact on both your internal and external customers. This disruption requires genuine care, going the extra mile and sharing insights and wisdom that enable your customers to grow and profit.

5. How you manage time and yourself to become more efficient and effective. This disruption is more than just time management. It includes managing your emotions and energy.

6. How do you find a deeper and sustained sense of success. Lopsided goals can provide temporary satisfaction; however, a deeper and sustained sense of success comes from a broader set of holistic goals.

7. How you become a powerful and positive change driver. Disrupting the flow here means your troops realize and strongly believe that change is good for them.

8. How you are able to lead with your head and heart. Leading with your head helps the logical part of people. Positive disruption enhances leading with the heart by showing empathy, compassion and care, which in turn inspire loyalty, rapport and trust.

9. How you create an enabling environment. You want to leverage every bit of your team’s energy and knowledge, so return the favor by creating a positive environment, and your people will strive and thrive.

10. How do you create a giving culture that creates abundance all around. Positive disruption makes you understand the paradox of giving in business – the more value you create for others, the more value they create for you.

11. How you marry your IQ, EQ and SQ. IQ shows you are intelligent, smart, and witty. EQ (Emotional Quotient) helps you build connection, rapport, trust. And SQ (Spiritual Quotient) inspires, uplifts, energizes.

12. How you transform negative ego into positive pride. Negative ego entails being self-centered and it can get you results in the short term. But in the long term, you will find you are losing good people and experiencing low morale.

Set a goal for 2022 to positively disrupt your organization that creates a competitive edge.

Happy New Year!

Power of giving

Living to Give philosophy means that you make giving the core purpose of your daily living. You make it a way of life – whatever you do, you permeate with giving. It is not just what you do, but how you do it. Show empathy, non-judgement and kindness whether you are engaging with your family, dealing with your business customer or even when you are interacting with a complete stranger.

At the end of 2021 consider joining in the quest to Live to Give for a wonderful cause called Maziwa Breastfeeding.

Maziwa ignites the potential of new mothers in developing markets to balance breastfeeding optimally and return to work. 90% of mothers in countries like Kenya are torn between staying at home to breastfeed and working to support their families financially. Unfortunately, suboptimal breastfeeding increases the risk of infant mortality by 14 times!

What’s even more compelling is that your contribution will be matched if you donate any time in December – doubling your giving. As an added benefit, your donation will also be completely tax-deductible in Canada and the US. What a great opportunity to give. Click here to donate now:
maziwabreastfeeding.com/donate

Live to Give

If this ticks all the boxes for you, then join in the quest to Live to Give for a wonderful cause called Maziwa Breastfeeding (founded by my daughter, Sahar Jamal).

Maziwa ignites the potential of new mothers in developing markets to balance breastfeeding optimally and return to work. 90% of mothers in countries like Kenya are torn between staying at home to breastfeed and working to support their families financially. Unfortunately, suboptimal breastfeeding increases the risk of infant mortality by 14 times!

What’s even more compelling is that your contribution will be matched if you donate any time in December – doubling your giving. As an added benefit, your donation will also be completely tax-deductible in Canada and the US. What a great opportunity to give. Click here to donate now:
maziwabreastfeeding.com/donate