Love is not a convenience

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Love is not a convenience that you use when you feel like it, and discard when it is not convenient.

Love is not static but reverberates in every pulse of your being. Love is a verb, it is displayed in action and deed. It radiates in every fiber of your being.

When your loved ones see you do they witness a twinkle in your eyes, a genuine smile on your face, a joy that is exuding and a message on your brow saying “I will be honored to be of service to you!”

To test your genuine love, observe your behavior when someone close needs your help. The truth may awaken you.

Begin with, “Beyond”

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Leaders that I have met throughout the world are seeking continuous improvement in their business, striving for the elusive balance between work and personal life, and searching for a deeper meaning and purpose to help them achieve happiness.
They are thus looking for the harmony between Business,  Balance & Beyond.

In my view, the starting point is, to begin with, “Beyond”. This means defining what is it all about. Why business? Why this particular business? What if I became very rich what will change? Who am I? At the end of my life when I look back what will make me proud of my life? These are questions that define who you are, what you want and why you want what you want. When you have this clarity and live your life aligned with this clarity,  you experience congruence and harmony.

I have created a 90-day personal scorecard where you set goals in six areas of your life just for the next 90 days. They include Spirituality (Beyond), Family, Health, Lifelong learning (Balance), Work/Career, Finance (Business). Why 90 days? When you have very long terms goals you tend to take it easy. When you have very short-term goals you seem to get into urgency and firefighting mode. 90 days is a good period but you have to align the 90-day goals with your long-term goals and break them down into monthly and weekly mini goals to create harmony.

Feel free to create your own methods that work for you. Wisdom has to be practical and work for you for it to have an impact on your life.

Inverse Paranoid!

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When something changes, like an appointment or a planned event you are looking forward to, you can react in two ways.

One way to react is with disappointment, which is normal.

The alternative reaction is to say that this is the best thing to happen because it is going to lead to a better outcome. Brian Tracy, my co-author on our book, “What You Seek is Seeking You”, would call this attitude – inverse paranoid. Instead of becoming paranoid and upset, you do the opposite because you are confident that everything that happens is leading you to your ideal outcome.

W. Clement Stone was described as being inverse paranoid because he believed the Universe was conspiring in his favor as opposed to the other way around. He would look for opportunity in everything that happened – good, bad, indifferent.

In simple terms, a person who is paranoid is regarded as someone who thinks the world is out there to do them harm. An inverse paranoid on the other hand is someone who thinks that the world is out there to do them good!

For instance, if you have just been charged $600 US for changing your flight, instead of feeling ripped off ask yourself what opportunity does this change present for you? It happened to me once, and naturally, I was not too amused. So I went out looking for the opportunity it presented. Lo and behold, I found quite a few opportunities that were worth a lot more –inverse paranoid at work!

Give it a shot next time – at least in thought, if not in dollars and cents.

Creative Leaders!

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In an increasingly volatile and complex world, where there is no one specific roadmap for success, what we need today are creative leaders; leaders who can create and foster an environment to draw out the individual potential of each member of the team.

Over my last two decades of work with global corporations, I have noticed there are certain key qualities which define creative leaders.

Let’s look at some of their qualities:

1. They are authentic – Creative leaders think and act from a place of truth within themselves. Creativity is borne out of authenticity, the courage to explore fresh ideas to create new meaning and value, and do away with what no longer serves us, at the risk of disapproval or censure. Creative leaders consider all viewpoints, but are able to remain independent of the good or bad opinions of others, relying on their inner wisdom to guide their effort.

2. They draw connections – Steve Jobs defined creativity as simply connecting things. He said, “When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn’t really do it, they just saw something.” Nothing in this world is original; rather it is built on the foundation of preceding discoveries or inventions.

3. They value quiet time alone – Big ideas usually make their way when the mind is quiet and creative leader’s value quiet time in their daily life. Many of them are avid meditators or practice other mindful practices like Tai Chi, Qigong to calm their inner chatter and allow ideas and solutions to emerge.

4. They are problem solvers – While average folk discusses the impact of problems, creative leaders are programmed to look for solutions. For them, a problem is just another opportunity for creating more value and self-development.

5. They are inspired by the love of what they do – Creative leaders constantly seek purpose and meaning in their work. They are passionate about their vision, and this energy inspires others to follow suit. They understand the importance of showing everyone the big picture and continuing to foster a positive environment in which others can draw their own sense of purpose and contribute their unique bit to the solution.

6. They take time to nurture their creative space – While creative ideas are touted to pop up when least expected, it often takes months and years of relentless work to enable the proverbial flash. Creative leaders actively seek out experiences, interactions, and experimentation to spark creative thinking.

7. They challenge the status quo – Robert Kennedy once said, “There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why… I dream of things that never were, and ask why not?” Creative leaders allow themselves to be curious and open. They are ready to upset the status quo even if it means upsetting a few agendas or vested interest groups. They ask questions, challenge assumptions, imagine unseen possibilities and are willing to dig deeper to overcome the obstacles laid down by those who favor the status quo. As Steve Jobs put it, we can make a dent in the world we live in.

8. They live in the Now – Creative leaders are dreamers with robust imagination but with their feet planted firmly in the ground. So while they have exciting ideas for the future, they possess a sharp awareness of their present environment coupled with adaptability and flexibility. Hence they are comfortable with ambiguity and uncertainty and thrive on change.

9. They believe that creativity is a state of mind – Creative leaders believe that anyone and everyone is creative. The only thing needed is self-confidence and the right outlet for expression.


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In today’s uncertain times, many shy away from giving. They complain about lack of time and resources. They become busy working, commuting, and being caught in the activity trap. There is little time for exercise, relaxation, family, introspection, meditation or financial planning. Stress and dissatisfaction are widespread.

The conventional solution is to work hard, work fast and concentrate on self. Is that working? Not really! There exists lack of fulfillment, unhappiness, relationship challenges and negative energy. So what is the solution? Giving!

The more you give to your family; you will enjoy better relationships at home. The more you give to your colleagues, the better camaraderie you will have at work. This enhances your productivity and performance. The more you give to your customers, the better loyalty you will create leading to a better bottom line. The more you give to the community, the better environment you will create for you and your family to live in.

The more time you invest in others, the less time you need getting things done. In addition, when you give you tap into your creativity, innovation, and potential. Also, when you are gentle and give to others, you are also gentle with yourself. Thus the more you give, the more you have!

If you cannot give money, you can give love, hope, laughter, skills, wisdom, ideas, attention, and a listening ear. As Kahlil Gibran beautifully says, “You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” The benefits of giving range from security, empowerment, and better relationships to good health, longer life, happiness.

The best time to give is today! Today is a new day, a fresh beginning! Practicing daily dose of giving to self and others rejuvenates you! Here are seven tips:

  • Give gratitude every day.
  • Shine your light and inspire others to shine their light.
  • Be a loving human being and family member. Sometimes we forget the people closest to us.
  • Give people the benefit of doubt – remember everyone is fighting a battle. Also, give every situation the best possible interpretation.
  • Be a little bit better every day in every way.
  • Marry your audacious goals with living in the moment! The direction is important, however, it is the execution in the moment that creates the results.
  • Enjoy the ride – remember the destiny is in the journey!

Giving is a grace. It comes to people who are blessed. Givers are people who are kindled spiritually and understand the power of giving.

When you take the approach of gratitude for being given the opportunity to serve others, your service takes a new dimension which includes:

⁃       Living your purpose
⁃       Your focus shifts to making an impact not on getting credit
⁃       Focus on the recipient, not you
⁃       You practice “With malice towards none and charity for all”

In serving humanity and good causes, the return on investment (ROI) is priceless. Volunteers do not get paid because their work is priceless!


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Your life is made up of both the gross and subtle aspects. While the gross includes your actions, behavior and outcomes, the subtle deals with the power of your thoughts, beliefs and creativity. Each feeds on the other. Your imagination is the most potent expression of your beliefs and creativity.

The legend of Babe Ruth’s “called-shot” home run in the 1932 World Series dramatically illustrates the value of conviction.  Playing in Chicago’s Wrigley Field, the New York Yankees had won the first two games against the Chicago Cubs. They would go on to sweep the series four games to none. Ruth, the Yankees’ top slugger, opened the game at Chicago’s Wrigley Field with a first-inning home run, then came to the plate in the third inning.  He took two strikes, and then, according to observers, pointed toward the centerfield bleachers.  He knocked the next pitch over centerfield and out of the park.

Legend has it that a teammate asked Ruth, “What if you hadn’t hit the home run?”  Ruth’s answer:  “It never crossed my mind.” Babe Ruth’s philosophy was “Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.”  He didn’t, and though he struck out more often that most players, he rewrote the record books when it came to home runs.

Coping Strategies

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All of us have, in reserve, enormous potential for coping with different situations. When changes confront us, we tap into our problem-solving repositories. We draw upon an array of troubleshooting methods and coping strategies. However, if we’re not exposed to change, those talents remain untapped.

Our various stages of growth condition us to developmental change. We see infants grow into adolescence, then into adulthood.  We see the barren limbs of winter sprout spring leaves, then burst into blossoms, which mature into summer fruit.  We see fall foliage grow dull and recede once more into the barrenness of winter.  As birthdays pile up, we encounter sickness and death among our loved ones, and quietly accept the fact that one day they’ll claim us too.  These changes are a part of our normal existence, and humans naturally learn to cope with them.

But, when a disaster; economic depression or crime and/or violence hit close to home, we need to tap into our repository of coping strategies.

Our neighbor, Anna, found a way of coping with cancer took her husband. She found that twice-a-week visits to the sick at the hospital were not only a great way of giving back, but it brought her, as well as those fighting illness out of their loneliness. She regards these comforting visits as a gift to her husband.

The most positive approaches for getting through life-changing events are drawn from our repositories of problem-solving behavior and coping strategies.

We accumulate these mechanisms simply by living and enduring.  They are there to draw upon when change falls heavily on our lives.