Who defines you?

It does not matter how others define you. It does matter how you define you. This does not mean living in denial and ignoring everything you do. It means taking an objective look at yourself including where you are and who you are and where you want to be and whom you want to be. No one else can define you except you. People, when they define you, are defining them, not you.

When you see beauty, you are beauty. This applies when you define others or when you define you!


You can grow your own capacity by being a mentee and can enhance the capacity of your team member by being their mentor. When you & your team stop growing your business stops growing.

If you feel you are beyond the need of mentoring or being mentored consider the following examples:

• Oprah Winfrey was mentored by author and poet, the late Maya Angelou.
• Mark Zuckerberg was mentored by Steve Jobs
• Richard Branson mentored by Sir Freddie Laker
• Michael Bloomberg by William R. Salomon
• Warren Buffet was mentored by Benjamin Graham.
• Henry David Thoreau mentored by Ralph Waldo Emerson
• Quincy Jones mentored by Musician Ray Charles
• Colin Powell mentored by his father Luther Powell
• Mother Teresa mentored by  Father Michael van der Peet.
• Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg  mentored by Larry Summers

Mentoring another person is a wonderful gift you could give someone. There’s unexplained karma in the world that you get what you give and the more people you mentor the more the rewards come back to you, only multiplied.

It is important to do it right if you are planning to formalize a Mentorship program in your business including:

– Have clarity of the purpose of the program
– Create success metrics
– Clear business objectives
– Align it with the strategic goals of the organization
– Ensure solid mentor/mentee relationships (good constructed matches)


You were born into this world for a reason. You are here for a nobler purpose than just to eat, sleep, produce offspring, and die. You are here to make a difference. You are here to shine your light and inspire others to shine their light.

There is no one like you in this world. No one in this world can match your smile, style, or DNA. No one in this world can speak like you or think like you. You are unique, gifted, and special. Your gifts are tied to your purpose. Discover them and use them fully. When you do things you were born to do and use your innate gifts to make a difference, you are living and working with purpose.

When you live with purpose, you are energized and focused and have a sense of direction. All of nature is on call, operating in silence, and yet on purpose.

A ship would never sail without a destination. Similarly, you can’t sail through life without having a clear goal. In fact, when facing the storms of life it is our purpose which ferries us out of them.

When you have a purpose, you know where you are going, and you know why you want to go there. You are driven to get there. A sense of purpose creates energy, meaning, gumption, and love. You lose track of time doing things that have a solid purpose. You find enjoyment and make a difference to others.

When you do purposeful work, you feel guided by principles. Your principles are the anchor, providing a source of steadiness amid tumultuous circumstances. In the words of Abraham Lincoln, “Important principles may and must be inflexible.” If principles can be bent, they cannot serve as reliable guides to behavior.


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Is procrastination a bad habit? Yes and No.

Yes, it is a bad habit if you are procrastinating to:

– Exercise
– Have proper nutrition
– Have quality family time
– Express love and appreciation
– Read
– Engage in Lifelong Learning
– Coach & Mentor your team
– Goal set with your team
– Be coached & mentored
– Be focused
– Prioritize
– Be Grateful
– Count your blessings

No, it is not a bad habit if you are procrastinating to:

– Watch TV
– Get angry
– Blame others
– Be lazy
– Overeat
– Gossip
– Sulk
– Swear
– Smoke
– Drink alcohol
– Take harmful drugs

In other words, procrastination is a bad habit if you procrastinate the important. On the other hand, procrastinating is not a bad habit if you procrastinate the unimportant.

Do not sweat procrastinating the unimportant. However, with the important, what you can do tomorrow, do it today.

Have clarity of what is important and what is not important. Then get into action on what is important, pronto!

Eye on the Goal!

To achieve the desired outcome is usually a journey. Sometimes you will feel things are going well during the journey and sometimes you will find there is a stall. You can panic or switch off when a stall happens or you can navigate yourself out of the negative situation by refocusing on what is working.

Getting to a successful outcome requires astute navigation including being able to touch the chord that seals the deal.

During a stall, keeping your eye on the goal invites the innate ability to be guided as to what to do next.


Making decisions does not come naturally to some. To others following through with their decision is difficult. There are times when making a decision is not easy because of varied reasons including complexity of choices, conflicting commitments, and lack of sufficient information.

However, once you make a decision after having given enough thought to all the varied circumstances, then execution is the name of the game.

Any slack in following through with your decision can take you way back to where you started and now much harder to make a decision. 

Stepping Up!

You have a choice of staying where you are or stepping up. Many avoid stepping up for the added stress that it brings.

However, by stepping up you can:

– go the extra mile where it is less crowded

– you can become an expert thus more in demand

-become an effective delegator because your time is tight

-say “No” to things that do not add value.

Status quo will not cut it in the new norm. The new norm will demand step up or step out!